Sometimes being a mom is hard, at least I’ve heard that, not like I’ll ever know. Let’s give a round of applause to this mom for standing up for what is right though. She went on Facebook and let out a rant for the ages.
She did so because she suspects that the father of her kids isn’t declaring his total income to the Child Maintenance Service.
She posted a long open letter to the Facebook page Single Mum Still Standing, and she also criticized how nothing can be done about this.
So far the open letter has been shared over 10,000 times and it’s still growing. In the letter she details how she is barely able to pay for her children even though their dad could help more.
She begins the letter:
“Any child maintenance payments made by you to me do not pay for my holidays. I don’t use YOUR money to pay for my clothes, and your payments certainly don’t fund my minor prosecco addiction.
Your hard-earned cash doesn’t help me pay my gym membership or go into my savings account. (Which doesn’t exist.)
So when you stalk my Instagram and Facebook and see me making the most of my child-free weekends with friends – rest assured I am funding this. In the words of Destiny’s Child, ‘The shoes on my feet, I bought em – I depend on me, if I want it.’”
She goes on with:
“Let me spell this out for you – any money you pay to help with the raising of our children goes directly to our children. I’ve got two jobs to fund my own lifestyle and pay for our children. It’s a simple concept you don’t seem to be able to grasp.
So you’re barking up the wrong tree when you bitterly tell me I should maybe “go out less” when I challenge you over your child maintenance payments.
So, what should child maintenance payments cover?
I admit, it goes towards my mortgage – the house which puts a roof over our children’s heads for 11 nights in 14. Their home. It also helps with the associated costs of running that home. I hope you will agree, they need a home.”
She onto say that everything that he was (or wasn’t) doing was effecting his kids. Since they didn’t have enough money, they would have to move house and that would directly effect them to move schools too.
She kept going on and said where his non-existent money goes to:
“The money pays towards their swimming lessons that I take them to, which you’ve never showed up to, because I want them to have that life skill, it pays for our son’s football coaching and matches. (He’s doing well by the way, you really should take the time to come and watch him – he would be amazed if you turned up.)
It helps pay for their birthday parties with their friends which your wife won’t let you attend because even after all this time she’s still jealous of you and I being in contact.”
She concluded with:
“You failing to pay is just another parenting fail. It’s just as bad as failing to turn up to our son’s Christmas play after promising him you would be there. It’s on a par with refusing to take our son to his much-loved football on YOUR weekends, it’s just like making our daughter stop her dance class on the day you have her. The list goes on.
I don’t expect you to do the right thing. You are a rubbish father. Luckily, they have me.”
This mom wished to stay anonymous but if she hadn’t, I bet she would have a GoFundMe with overflowing funds!