It doesn’t matter who you are, sometimes you just want love. I’m pretty sure that’s a universal thing, and we don’t need science to prove that fact to us. Sometimes though, I will say I know from experience, I have found partners that don’t enjoy being the big spoon. They denied me that right to be loved, and it looks like they were in the wrong!
Most guys don’t say they like to be little spoon because it hurts their masculinity, but for those that are comfortable with themselves it seems they are just better people.
Only 20% of UK couples spoon apparently (which seems like a low stat) and of that percentage it seems that 55% of the men don’t like to admit they enjoy being the little spoon. They believe that they will get laughed at, and I’m pretty surprised about that in 2018.
Those that do admit to enjoying the little spoon are supposedly better partners in general. So with the combined confidence of being okay with openly spooning and just wanting it overall, science says they will be better partners.
“Men that prefer to be the little spoon are more likely to be submissive, sensitive, pleasing and in touch with their feminine side.
A male that is in touch with his sensitive side can be more compassionate and definitely a contrast from the traditional male.
Sensitivity is a very important trait as relationships tend to be complicated and can be problematic in today stress driven society.”
This “Spooning Science” which is what I’m officially dubbing this study, also has to do with emotional intelligence too. This makes sense since the ones that are okay with admitting this trait are more comfortable in their own skin.
He went onto say:
“So a male who is in touch with his feelings tends to be more emotionally intelligent than those who are not, which is a major plus point in any relationship as communication is key.
It is also considered men who are sensitive spend much more time with a woman they adore and love, and it’s acceptable to expect a lot more compromise.”
I know this is pretty obvious to some people but being in touch with your emotions isn’t a bad thing or make you any less of a man.
“The spoon position demonstrates a dynamic in which one partner takes a protective stance over the other. It a vulnerable position that says ‘I trust you’.
This type of protection has once been a stereotype of male dominance over the women but not anymore. Times have changed as women are now somewhat freer to assert their dominance in all aspects of life.”
So basically if you are a guy and you’re reading this, maybe try out the little spoon position. I have a feeling you will like it and your significant other might enjoy you opening up and being vulnerable.