When you are losing weight, you want everyone to know. There’s no better feeling than seeing a group of friend you haven’t seen in a bit and them telling you how good you look. You can get this same satisfaction on social media, but sometimes there are also downsides to that.
This is what Stephanie Seabrook experienced but it has definitely been an emotional roller coaster. Back in 2015 she gained a bunch of followers due to her amazing weight loss journey. She lost 150 pounds and she posted an image with cruel comments that she had received over the years.
After posting that photo, she got surgery to remove that access skin from her weight loss. At first people applauded her for it, but eventually the haters came out with vengeance. This caused her to begin to gain the weight she had originally lost.
She spoke to People Magazine, saying:
“At first I tried to just shrug it off, and not think about it, but it started to get progressively worse and more frequent. I got death threats, and people said I should go kill myself because I’m pathetic. They thought that I was a liar and a fraud, when I was just trying to be loved and accepted like anyone else.”
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Weight gain and loss after a tummy tuck is/was interesting to say the least. When I started to gain, due to over eating and not exercising trying to cope with life being a bitch(lol), I didn’t even notice for the longest time until I was 80+ lbs again. It’s weird because I stopped stepping on the scale so wasn’t holding myself accountable that way and apparently I gained weight in totally different places! So my “normal” wiggle bits(that’s what I like to call them) didn’t seem to be getting any wigglier. And then I turned around and omg my back. Rolls. Like Pillsbury style. 😂 (because at any weight- we’re still a snack 😘). But I get a lot of messages about what it’s like to gain and lose after a TT. Let me tell you it’s different but taught me a lot. I’m 78lbs down since my wedding and everything is looking great. And honestly, if it wasn’t, I wouldn’t care. My body has been put through A LOT and it’s still here carrying my pain in the ass every day. And for that, I celebrate. My body may not be what it once was, but neither is my mind and spirit. I am so much stronger now just loving the body that I have and accepting it for all it’s magnificent scarred and stretched glory. And someday, if we have a baby it will just add to the love I have for my body and everything it has done for me. And the reason I can say this today is because my mental health took a front seat to my physical health. And what I found was most I interesting is my physical health just kind of followed without much effort. Everything falls into place when you learn to become at peace with who you are and accept yourself regardless of what others might think or feel about you. The only thing that matters is how YOU feel about you. . . . I don’t show side photos because I was insecure about my body. No more. I want to be the change I see in this world. More love. More acceptance. And it has to start with me. As Michael Jackson says… “I’m starting with the man in the mirror.” . . . I love each and every single one of you who sees my posts. Thank you for allowing me to share my truth and following me through this crazy life story of mine. 💜💜💜
After people began to cyber bully her, she began to gain weight and went into depression.
She continued saying:
“I was getting really depressed, and I couldn’t admit to everyone that I was gaining weight, because I felt that I had a duty to be there for these people who said they could relate to me. I didn’t want to disappoint them.”
People had accused her of photoshopping her photos and when she began to gain weight she actually had to photoshop her photos. She didn’t want to let her followers down.
This eventually led her to shut her account down temporarily and get help from a therapist. She eventually came back to the Gram with a sense of new found self-love.
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Sure. She gained weight. She also gained: Self love. Freedom. A love of delicious foods. An open mind. Sleep. A sense of self worth. Enjoyment in life. Peace with her body. Room in her mind for more important things. The time to relax. The knowledge of what and who she needs in her life. A sense of humor. HAPPINESS. (She also gained a clean mirror! 😆) 🤔 Gaining doesn’t seem like such a bad thing after all! Remember: the fat on our bodies doesn’t define who we are! What matters is what WE get out of life and what we leave behind for others. Enjoy those fries, sleep in when you need to or if you miss a workout don’t stress… there is always tomorrow! I choose to live with moderation and not deprivation. I will never forget being out a bar with my best friends and everyone was drinking except me. Which is fine but I said no to the drink because of the calories and I had goals. You know what I remember from that night 5 years ago? That I said no to a drink because of the calories. I didn’t remember the fun we had. I don’t remember the games of pool we probably played. Or how many times we laughed. I was even sober. No. I remember feeling guilty for wanting to indulge. I remember feeling scared of becoming fat again. I remember feeling insecure that I was still “the fat girl” at the bar. Shitty, right? Now, I chose to LIVE in the moment and not think about the trivial things. Think I’m fat? Ok, cool. Think I’ve failed? No prob. Think I should stfu? No gonna happen. And also not my prob. I’m too busy having fun, eating food, working out because I like to and not because I “have” to and living life to the fullest. Other people’s opinions about us shouldn’t effect us they way they do. (Easier said than done, I know). At the end of the day their words do to us what we allow them to. I will no longer allowed them to hurt me. But this is YOUR life. So do with it whatever you want!!! I wanted to eat the French fries… so I did. And OMG they’re good! 😂 Love you all! . . . . . . #mentalhealth #fatdoesntdefineyou #behappy #weightloss #weightgain #selfworth #happiness #mmmfrenchfries #fitfam #fitspo #igainedalotmorethanjustweight
She reflected with a caption:
“Sure. She gained weight,” the caption reads. “She also gained: Self love. Freedom. A love of delicious foods. An open mind. Sleep. A sense of self worth. Enjoyment in life. Peace with her body. Room in her mind for more important things. The time to relax. The knowledge of what and who she needs in her life. A sense of humor. HAPPINESS.”
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It’s crazy to think that I wasn’t much happier at 185 from 340. It was like superficial happiness. Like “oh I have a ‘great’ body now so life will be easier and I’m getting attention.” Sure at 24 I thought that was happiness but oh was I wrong. I clearly did not learn everything I needed to so I started to gain weight; my journey was not over. Around the time my relationship with Kaycee became turbulent I started gaining weight. I went back into my old eating habits when I am upset or stressed. Fast food mostly. It was comforting again. But then I realized I was gaining weight I was too ashamed to admit it. I felt like I let myself down and let everyone else down. I tried to alter my photos to try make myself feel happy again. Thinking people will comment and say I looked good and maybe that would be the motivation I needed to succeed. Nope. That was a huge learning moment in my life. 1. Not all people are who they seem or portray. 2. Being dishonest will never bring happiness. Once I was, inappropriately, outed the flood gates of hate opened. After months of trying to deal with that I shut this account down for almost a year. On Jan. 20th, 2017 I decided no one gets to make me feel bad ever again, including myself. I came back, admitted my mistakes and moved forward. Sometimes it takes a period of time for reflection to figure out what changes need to be made. I needed to take time for me to heal and find myself again. I learned never to apologize for me and to just love and do the right thing every time. I have never been happier in my life and my relationship with my husband has never been better. I am human and will always make mistakes but it’s about not repeating the same mistakes. I know you have had hard times. But try to look at them as a positive. Because hard times are what allow us to grow and learn. Right? Don’t let a number or fat on your body limit your love for yourself. Errbody needs more LOVE! If you ever feel like you need to talk, vent or just need someone to listen I am always here. ♥️
As of recent she has embraced her body and has found a new identity on Instagram. She posted a before and after of almost six years, with a big long caption. What stood out was when she said:
“My goal, in all of this posting, is to hopefully show people that when you truly love yourself it doesn’t matter what size or shape you are. You will be comfortable no matter what size because you know OUR SIZE DOES NOT DICTATE OUR WORTH.”
No matter who you are those words can resonate with you and really help I think. Give Stephanie a follow here and see her journey in real time.